Then there are your friends who you don’t want to lose despite their harmful comments, the friends that get slapped with a feminist rant about why a rape joke isn’t funny when one in three women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime, or trying to explain what white privilege is to someone who has no idea that they would be considered privileged just by their skin color or gender. It gets really frustrating always feeling mad or offended by things, especially when you have spent your whole life being easy going and not being offended by much. It is frustrating always having to explain yourself and having people tell you to stop being “so uptight” or “turning everything into a sexist/racist issue”. It isn’t about turning things into those issues, it’s the fact that those issues are right in front of your face, coming out of your mouth, and you have absolutely no idea how or why it is wrong.
A lot of the time I think about how much easier things would be had I just stayed in the dark, stopped reading my feminist blogs and books and ignored how little we have actually progressed despite what we tell ourselves, what is going on in the United States, but I just can’t. I can’t go back. I don’t want to go back, I don’t want to be a part of the problem. I will never solve it, I don’t know if it is a problem that will EVER be solved, but I want to be a part of the movement. I want my voice heard. I want to SMASH THE PATRIARCHY.
This article is everything I feel with my friends.
Also my entire family and basically everyone I know.